Writing Personal Ads That GRAB The Responses That YOU Want
There are hundreds of thousands of people
who have profiles on internet dating sites. Do you want
to be one of those people who get too many replies to
your personal ads in your mailbox?
You might be a great guy with a classic smile, good sense
of humor and impeccable manners. The problem is how
do you let others know your good features without coming
across as too conceited?
Do's
Be Honest
Honesty cannot be stressed highly enough when writing
your personal ads. Dishonesty leads to distress, embarrassment
and disappointment. People who embellish the truth to gain
more responses lead themselves to greater heartache than
if they were honest and got less responses.
Allow others to make an informed decision on your profile just as you
would like to have the right information to make a decision
on others. Just as a fake resume will see you eventually lose your
job , so to will a misleading personals ad see
you lose all your hard earned respect and trust.It is a huge
dating world out there and you may just miss out on your special someone
by not telling them one of your key features.
Be Yourself
Perhaps easier said than done. Ultimately you want someone who
will appreciate you for who you are. Adopting a romantic
persona will attract the wrong type of person if you are
a pragmatic person looking for a hiking buddy. It is important
to write your personal ads in a tone that reflects your personality.
People who are just themselves are almost always more relaxed,
more comfortable and generally have an easier time finding
others because they are comfortable with who they are. A funny personal
story may give someone an enormous insight into your world.
Be Positive
Unlike the song usually like attracts like. Putting down positive
requirements such as "I am looking for a kind man, with
a fantastic sense of humor and easy going nature " works
far better than "please don't message me if you aren't
kind, don't have a sense of humor or easy going nature".
People respond better to praise than criticism, the same
is true of personal ads.
Be Creative
Simply listing your age, sex and location isn't going to grab
anyone's attention. Offer a witty comment, clever observation
or descriptive line as your headline. It shows thoughtfulness
and reflects well on yourself.
Don't be afraid to use a quote from a famous person. It will show your
appreciation for their work and make your profile more personalized.
Reading through many of the personals in your section is
always a good way to see how some stand out and how others
blend in like a chameleon.
Be Open Minded
You never know what package love will come in. Being too specific on your requirement may mean you will let your true ideal slip through your fingers.
Fantastic relationships will always work through small quirks, be sure
not to get bogged down in the minor details.
Be sure to do a spelling and grammar check
Before submitting your masterpiece check over your work to make
sure you remove all spelling and grammar errors. Give yourself
plenty of time to write your profile. They may make
an otherwise intelligent human being into a sloppy and careless
one. I cringe every time I read personal ads that have vast
multitudes of them!
Don'ts
Be negative
Don't be too hard on yourself. You have many great qualities to offer
a future companion. If you are stuck on what you have to offer ask a close friend.
Be bitter about an old relationship
There is no need to write about previous relationships in your
personal ads. The reader wants to learn more about you and
not your previous relationship. While previous relationships are
an important part of who we are now, dwelling on how bad your
last relationship was indicates that you may not be ready to
start a new one.
Be arrogant
There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Being confident and outgoing is important but putting yourself up too high on a pedestal is going to have people running for the door.
Be too brief
You are a complex, creative being, surely there is more to you than
a couple of lines. The space in your profile is there to
be used.
Be too long winded
Having said the above, others don't want your entire life story
on the personals ad (they can find that out on your first date
;). Leave enough information so that they can make an informed
decision and leave them wanting to learn more.
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